This post doesn’t really have a subject. Or at least it could not be said to have one subject. We’ll see what spouts forth from the recesses of my mind, but at the moment I’m more focused on the things that have been running around in the forefront.
Many people keep blogs these days and why wouldn’t they? They provide an outlet for feelings, thoughts, ideas, ideals, considerations, positions and plenty of synonyms to go with these. But (and I have no data to back this up, so I may be wrong) from personal experience the personal blogs I see tend to be about the negative aspects of a persons life. Certainly some people post the positives as well, but negativity is a cloud that appears to hang over the blagosphere. There might be some truth to the “Internet emo-kid” hiding away from everything and only talking about stuff on their blog but I cannot possibly believe that everyone who does this follows that trend. After all, livejournal is still active so those kids are all on there.
I suppose what interests me is this decision to tell the Internet about your feelings. Not because of the potentially enormous amount of people from the faceless masses of Internet browsers that might see it, but because of the few people who actually know the blog poster. Those few people in real life who know this person and have, through some means or another, gained access to this person’s thoughts and feelings as expressed by their blog. More importantly, they have a context in which to place these postings because they know the person.
The reactions I’ve seen to such blog posts tend to be varied and it is, obviously, based on the context of reader and author and the relationship between the two. It can range from comforting someone after something terrible has happened all the way to hostility and anything in between, but there is one form of response that I have found to be quite irritating. Let’s call it gossiping, for lack of a more appropriate moniker.
Most people are guilty of this. They will have read some acquaintance of theirs blog and considered what it has to say, then one day they will be talking about the person with someone else and the topic of the blog will come up. It may be a reference to a specific post or it may be speaking about the blog as a whole but what is most likely in these gossip situations appears to be the use of the blog as a weapon against the author. Now this sort of hostility has happened plenty; open debate due to what someone posts online is common but we’re not talking about open debate here. We’re talking high school level backstabbing. The sort of behind-the-back bitching that teenagers appear to be oh so fond of.
This leads me to wonder why such a person would read the author’s blog. In most cases, it’s not outright enmity that fuels these acts, so the reader clearly has some other interest in the author than to just put them down at the next meeting of the gossip girls (Note from legal: Gossip Girls is just as likely to include other genders). For that matter, why do people complain when someone posts about how bad their day was to a blog where noone else can see it?
I can understand the irritation of people who see authors post their feelings on forced networking sites. Facebook is not the place to be posting your innermost feelings, at least not unless you want to have people calling you an attention seeker. Even things like tumblr semi-force a person who’s connected with you to engage, at least on some level, with what you’re posting. These are the sorts of things that should be up to the end reader to decide. Maybe I don’t want to know how bad your day was. Maybe I don’t want to deal with vaguely depressing posts that only hint at a deeper cause. I may just reblog you though, because that sad-quote-on-a-wintery-forest picture really applies to my life right now, you know?
Also yes I’m aware of the hypocrisy of my wordpress automatically updating my facebook whenever I make a new post. I’ll justify it by saying that my blog is generally not for these sorts of postings.
Other stuff. Hmm.
Have you ever noticed how naïve and hypocritical some people are? It boggles my mind sometimes but there are also some individuals that just take the cake. A recent personal experience would be a person who created and manipulated a situation through their own actions, then externalises blame for the outcome. “It might seem like we could be good for an hour”. Hmm, perhaps you might be able to increase that from “an hour” to <insert period of time here> if you were actually willing to spend more than an hour working on it. Or perhaps concerns about how “the things that were my problems may not have changed” could be allayed if you would actually, you know, do something about your problems.
Perhaps instead of outright saying “things will be too difficult” you should actually try them out instead of passing judgement from within your safe little zone, automatically assuming that nothing will work, running from comfort to comfort because you’re too scared and weak to actually fight.
Perhaps you should be willing to fight for what you want. I’m not talking something like a new of sheets that you want because you saw them and they looked nice. I’m talking about how you want something so badly that you keep coming back to it. Over and over, even when you’re not in the same location. Something you want so bad that you’ll risk ruining your safe zone not once, not twice but three times, only to claim that “it would be too difficult/scary to properly try”. Maybe this isn’t being hypocritical or naïve. Maybe it’s trying to juggle having the best of every world instead of having to work on the one you want. The thing with juggling is that it requires skill and even when you end up tossing only one ball into the air, if you don’t care about that ball you’re just going to end up dropping it.
The ball is a metaphor by the way.
Then again, maybe your ball should grow some balls and actually do what it was planning on doing. But then again, some balls just like to roll around in the crazy.
Statistics time, I suppose.